kafka(ticdc): ddl sink close the underline sink if send ddl or checkpoint failed and refactor the kafka ddl sink

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What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #12666, close #12096

What is changed and how it works?

• owner/ddl_sink should close if meet any error, and rebuilt by the retry.
• kafka factory implementations should wrap error immediately, and caller should just return error, no need to trace the error.
• kafka ddl sink use encoder directly, instead of encoderBuilder
• syncProducer no need to close in a goroutine, since it only deliver one message at a time, won't be blocked if the downstream kafka cluster unavailable.

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Will it cause performance regression or break compatibility?

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Release note

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Timeline:

• 2025-03-26 07:45:34.95632763 +0000 UTC m=+1032828.640563726: ☑️ agreed by wk989898.
• 2025-04-02 06:55:06.502853958 +0000 UTC m=+1634600.187090054: ☑️ agreed by hongyunyan.

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/cherry-pick release-8.5

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@3AceShowHand: new pull request created to branch release-8.5: #12677.
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In response to a cherrypick label: new pull request created to branch release-8.1: #12679.
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In response to a cherrypick label: new pull request created to branch release-7.5: #12680.
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