src: add cleanup hooks to `node::ObjectWrap` #7427

Job	Run time
Build slim tarball	1m 14s
aarch64-linux: Cache V8 build	23s
x86_64-darwin: with shared libraries	42m 14s
x86_64-linux: with shared libraries	27m 1s
aarch64-darwin: with shared libraries	26m 23s
aarch64-linux: with shared openssl-3.6.2	24m 0s
aarch64-linux: with shared openssl-3.5.6	23m 58s
aarch64-linux: with shared openssl-1.1.1w	22m 28s
aarch64-linux: with shared openssl-4.0.0	23m 18s
aarch64-linux: with shared openssl-3.0.20	23m 54s
aarch64-linux: with shared boringssl-0.20260508.0	23m 26s
	3h 58m 19s

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